Category Archives: Personal Bits

Just things from my personal life

Leaving Bayonne – The Best Excursion

Personal Bits, Travel

SharkBoy and I left the ship at every port. For all but two of the ports we did ship sanctioned excursions where we were assured that we’d have our asses back on deckchairs, drinks in hand before the ship left the dock. One woman experienced the horror of not getting back to the ship in time and experienced having the entire 12th deck chant her name as she ran down the pier (the PA system had been calling for her for 15 minutes). From that day, SharkBoy said he would never be “The Susan”.

The excursions were fun and well worth the extra couple bucks for “The Susan” insurance. We visited Water Island where the hotel in the book Don’t Stop the Carnival was based and where I was attacked by a hibiscus eating iguana. We did ATV carts along a St Maartin highway which just sealed my desire to purchase a Vespa in the future. We did a waterfall tour in Dominica, which I’ve mentioned that the road led straight up into mountains with a dizzying drive.

One unsupervised trip we did in Barbados where we were met by my Mom, who is wintering in an ocean front villa. She picked us up at the port with her two neighbours and were toured all over the island. We then went back to her villa and were fed like good Italian sons should be when they visit mama. We also met more of the villa-gers, one of which SharkBoy and I instantly liked due to her Guyanese accent (British and East Indian coming from an East Asian woman, tanned like all get out) and her no nonsense attitude and warmth. Loved. Her.

However, the best excursion, for me, was the trip to Prickly Pear Island off the coast of Antigua. Here’s a map:

View Prickly Pear Island in a larger map

As you can see, it’s small and remote. But according to Wikipedia the island held 12 islanders, 6 of which contracted an annoying case of thyroid cancer after WWII, due to the spent fuel rods stored in bunkers in the middle of the island.

We were told this by our dinner mate who we tagged along with to the island. Just as we set foot on the pristine coral white sands. Thanks.

I think we’ll be ok. How bad can 4 hours of radiation exposure be?

We were given free drinks, a BBQ lunch and snorkeling equipment to look around the reef/coral that surrounded the island. I took to the water like a fish with my underwater digital camera in hand. Pics here.

Teef!I went out snorkeling a few times, more than SharkBoy (he got a cut on his knee and was too worried about bleeding into the ocean – Sharks, you know) and for my efforts, we discovered that the 60spf sunblock worked well. There’s a white border all around my back tattoo which is suitable for framing. The rest of my back is flaking more than a dried tuna sandwiches your drunk mom would send you to school with.

The last time I came back I think SharkBoy was suitably drunk. I sat and settled into my lounger, we shared a quiet pause and he spoke up:

“I watched you out there in the ocean. I know you’re having a great time because you keep popping up and going under again. I can tell you’re happy.”

And I looked at him sideways and thought “Where the fuck is this coming from?”

And then I thought “Holy shit. I AM happy!”

When I was 10-12 yrs old I use to go out into the lake where our cottage was and stay out there for hours. I would wear rubber boots because I didn’t want to get leeches on my feet. I would go through swim suits like they were underwear. My parents were utterly cool with me being out in the lake and would leave me unsupervised to play with my plastic boats and floaty devices. SharkBoy’s comment sent me right back to those days where I would turn brown in the sun within seconds and take to the summer lake like it was my fish oxygen.

After he tells me this and I have a moment where I relive this memory, I’m overwhelmed with emotion. I pause and compose myself.

“You’re gay,” I say, keeping a brave face.

Channeling Russel Crowe

Personal Bits

I awake suddenly at 1am due to some unnamed, shrouded nightmare. As I lie there getting my heart rate back down I decide to “go to my happy place”. You know – thinking about the most relaxing thing I could conjure up at the time in hopes to get me back to sleep. Otherwise I would start thinking about work and oh god did I leave the stove on? Etc…

For some reason I thought of the opening scene from Gladiator (due to Spartacus on HBO Canada?) where Russel Crowe is walking through the wheat field and just touching everything (non-commercial reenactment below):

Anywhoo. I’m there in the dark, dreaming of golden fields of grain, the sun beaming down on me – not too hot, my hands touching lightly the plants as I wander through the grass, the smell of summer in my head —

The cat, from the foot of the bed, burps.

I didn’t get back to sleep until well after 3am.

Only Fourth? Tsk.

Celebs and Media, Personal Bits

The Globe is reporting that the Wall Street Journal is reporting that my brother’s play “The Drawer Boy” was the fourth most produced play in the US in the last decade. You may touch my sleeve.

Read the Globe article though. It’s very informative as to just who liked his plays and who weren’t kind over the last ten years. Also it has possibly the most creepiest picture of him ever. He is full on “Potato chin”

We’re off to see his new play “Courageous” Friday night. Yes. The freebie plea came through. Truly, he’s a generous brother. Love ya, Michael!

Courageously Gobsmacked

Art, Celebs and Media, Personal Bits

Okay any past comments I’ve ever made about Richard Ouzounian over at the Star are off the table. He’s given my brother’s play, Courageous, 3.5 stars out of 4.

You may recall I was privileged to be able to read a near-final draft of the play last month and I’ll be honest, after my first reading, I didn’t think it was going to be accessible to the general public (my brother nervously confessed he was worried about “this one not being any good” as we left a family dinner). However, I’m in agreement with Richard O when he says that Micheal’s writing “make(s) your head spin long after the curtain has fallen.” I’ve been thinking a lot of the nuances within the play, the writing, and I’m looking forward to seeing it.

If I can get some free tickets.

Ping. You’re Filled

Personal Bits, Tech

This morning my jaw feels like I got too close to the wrong end of a donkey (is there a right end?). You see, I had a filling done yesterday and for 12 hours I thought it was a technical marvel of modern dentistry – the least amount of discomfort for a filling I’ve ever experienced. Now I’m just sore.

As I’m bibbed, laid back and mouth cranked open, the dentist whips out a tiny, seemingly harmless probe and taps it on my gums next to the targeted tooth. Seconds after that he pops into my peripheral vision with a larger needle with a tube running from it and heads straight for my mouth. I’m expecting the pain but to my surprise there is none. The first tap was a quick local where the larger needle was to go in. I couldn’t feel anything, obviously due to the spreading freezing agent, but he did manage to move my whole head by shifting his hand slightly. Which made me wonder just how deep in was this needle. As I speculated that the needle was well under my tooth, a machine behind my head started to sing.

It was like being in a cockpit of a jet aircraft experiencing a crash landing. The first alarm was a female computer voice saying “PLB!” Or “TLC!” or something. I was told that was short for “I Stab at Thee, Vile Tooth!” or some such nonsense. Basically a reminder of what the dentist was about to do – either upper or lower single tooth anesthetizing. After that, three distinct tones played out over the machine: One “ta da!” ping to tell the dentist that the needle was indeed inside the ligature under the tooth, one “doo dee doo dee doo” ping to let the dentist know that freezing agent was being delivered to the nerves and a bizarre steel drum “da tah da!” to signal the finish.

So I was left for 3 minutes to let my single tooth to come accustomed to the freeze. After that, nothing. No pain, no discomfort, nothing to even complain about. The tip of my tongue was numb but the rest of my face was normal, compared to the last few fillings I’ve had that have rendered me a slobbering idiot. The drilling and the filling took less than 25 minutes and by the time I had taken the elevator from the 19th floor to the street, the freezing was already subsiding.

Today, as I said, my mouth is sore but nothing to get all dramatic about. I expect that will subside soon.

I can remember my first filling where all I can recall is a huge syringe, rubber dams, the room filling with the smell of tooth dust, enamel and fear and finally, me fainting in the waiting room on my way out the door. Like teens today not experiencing non-remote control tv, they’ll never know the horror of the importance of good dental hygiene.

Xmas In Vermont

Personal Bits

All the pictures are here

First off two thank yous go out to two people:

One: Da. Thank you for caring for the cats while we were away. I can tell you I felt a certain amount of guilt for leaving you behind on Xmas, alone in Toronto but I hear you had a nice dinner with Brother Mike and that lot. Hope George Hamilton and Billy Dee Williams didn’t give you much problems.

Two: Syl. As always it was a treat to travel to your house and experience the holiday with your (my new!) family. Your house is amazing and your hospitality knows no bounds. Your Xmases always make me thankful for what my immediate family lost so many years ago.

Okay with that out of the way, let’s get to the bitter (Syl, all this is in jest, take no offense), the fun and the just plain weird:

Ever shop at the Christmas Tree Shops (ugly site – ugly store)? To my Canadian friends: Imagine all the unsellable crap from housewares from Wal Mart and dump it haphazardly into store isles and lo and behold you can call it Christmas! I think they take 10% off at the cash if you’re dressed in sweatpants. Extra 5% if you’re in sweatpant shorts on Dec 26th during an ice storm. I betray my race when I say the store caters to white trash. And my mother-in-law who enjoys shopping there, I guess.

Ever drink with your sister in law? This is what it’s like:

Americans and their ability to toss around the concept of “copyright” is laughable. See the mess SharkBoy got into over on his blog just by taking a quick picture of a mannequin head he thought was cute. Step back in horror as the shop keeper actually believes the words she is saying to us.

I got this bag. Humans will weep at it’s cool factor:

My cool bag!

On the last day, Pogo, my Bro-in-Law, opened the doors to his warehouse and let us pour over skids and skids of older movies (2007 and earlier) for us to take home. He operates video rental kiosks from Quebec to Vermont and had just pulled 25 flats of videos from his stores to freshen stock. To SharkBoy this was like heaven. We showed real restraint by only taking 31 DVDs and towards the end of the spree, Pogo nearly had to drag SharkBoy from the warehouse, crying. Some gems include: The last season of Futurama (in individual movie format), a Robotech episode, The Bank Job (Jason ‘stop slobbering on my chest’ Statham!) and a curious direct to video Sandra Bullock movie I’ve never seen before. We’re in for the winter. Thanks Pogo!
Warehouse looting

Best Christmas Ever

Personal Bits

That’s a bit of a stretch (my best Xmas was when I got the Atari 2600), but pretty damn close for a 43 year old culture junkie.

Not only did I have a picturesque holiday in snowy Vermont with family I love, but I got to run through a warehouse like those “Shopping Contest” where contestants have to fill their carts in a certain amount of time. I’ll reveal more later, but know that, for me, it was like letting a diabetic into a candy store and waving an insulin wand over his head and saying “go for it, chubbo!”

I’ll also talk about Christmas Tree Stores and Vermont. I did last year but I want to go a bit deeper.

Pictures and video to follow. But for now, I want to thank the Vermontians for another holiday home run.

Finally Famous

Art, Celebs and Media, Personal Bits

You all may know my brother writes plays for a living.

Stop laughing. Obviously he’s doing well… he owns, not rents.

He’s prepped to release his next play called Courageous and before he started his press scrum, he emailed a copy to myself and my other gay, legally married brother with this question:

I’m about to open an new play here and will be doing inevitable interviews about it. It’s about the charter of rights and freedoms, and in the course of it, there’s a gay couple who are denied the opportunity to get married at city hall. Are you guys okay if I mention that both my gay sibs got married here in Toronto, one at city hall?

Bless his heart. I stealthily read the play at work and I’m suitably impressed (I’m sure I missed a few symbolic nuances by Alt-Tabbing between my screens when my boss walked by). I’m not going to go all Richard Ouzounian about the play (it is good, he’ll hate it) but I do have to mention one particular exchange between Todd who is confronting George, a refugee to Canada, and Lisa, his wife’s best friend, about their dinner choices:

TODD

I know, right?

LISA

Good one. You all set?

GEORGE

Yes.

TODD

What’s …?

LISA

George and I are going out for dinner.

TODD

Really?

(To George)

Really?

GEORGE

Really. We are going for pan…

LISA

Panzarotti.

GEORGE

Panzarotti. Baked or fried.

LISA

How do you like that, asslick?

A beat, Todd is thrown

Let me explain why this is significant.

Over my brother’s career I have made great efforts to see myself in any shard, sliver or crumb of his writing. When he started to publish work, I would tear through his pages looking for some reference of me: some slight nod to my existence so that would I live on in his work. I’d analyze and and all comments made by his characters and lay them across my life, my experiences with my brother, to see if they fit, like some scientist sequencing DNA from a horse and jamming it into a monkey.  With similar results:

Me: So when the Secretary in Plan B enters, crosses and places that file on the desk and blows everyone away with this beau geste, that was like… me… back when I was 15 and you borrowed Mom’s car without her knowing and I said I was responsible for the missing map in the glove compartment, right?

Michael: Uh. No.

And so it goes.

Back to Courageous. The above exchange filled me with such pride and glee when I read it because SharkBoy and I constantly order baked panzarotti when we dine at Olympic Pizza 76 (Yonge and College, possibly the most reliable restaurant in Toronto, but that’s another post). We’ve been going there for years and like Chip and Dale come to life, we always ask each other if we will be getting baked or fried panzarotti (SharkBoy: fried, me: baked)! Michael obviously picked up on our display of food fussing and placed it lovingly, like a baby Jesus wrapped in swaddling words*, in his current play.

Finally! I’m there. I’ve arrived! You may touch my sleeve.

*Xmas reference! Happy holidays!